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What's In Your Mind?/Rick Hanson, PhD

With a mind full of good, you have more to offer others.

What's in your mind?

The Practice: Be mindful of good.

Why?

It's kind of amazing: right now, what you think and feel, enjoy and suffer, is changing your brain. The brain is the organ that learns, designed by evolution to be changed by our experiences; what scientists call experience-dependent neuroplasticity.

Neurons that fire together wire together. This means that each one of us has the power to use the mind to change the brain to change the mind for the better; to benefit oneself and other beings.

Using this internal power is more important than ever these days, when so many of us are pushed and prodded by external forces—the economy, media, politicsworkplace policies, war on the other side of the world, the people on the other side of the dining room table—and by our reactions to them.

Life is often hard. To cope with hard things, to be effective and successful, or simply to experience ordinary well-being, we need resources inside, inner strengths like resilience, compassion, gratitude and other positive emotions, self-worth, and insight.

Some strengths are innate and built into your DNA but most are acquired, woven over time into the fabric of your brain. These lasting traits come from passing states—experiences of the inner strength—that are installed in the brain. You become more grateful through internalizing repeated experiences of gratitude; you become more compassionate through internalizing repeated experiences of compassion; etc.

So far, so obvious. But here's the catch: without this installation and without the transfer of the experience from short-term memory buffers to long-term storage, beneficial experiences such as feeling cared about are momentarily pleasant but have no lasting value. Yikes! There is no learning, no growth, no change for the better.

Meanwhile, your brain is rapidly and efficiently turning unpleasant, negative experiences—feeling frazzled, stressed, worried, frustrated, irritated, inadequate, hurt, etc.—into neuralstructure. To help our ancestors survive in harsh conditions, the brain evolved a negativity bias that makes it good at learning from bad experiences but relatively bad at learning from good ones, even though learning from good experiences is the main way to grow the inner strengths we all need.

In effect, today our brains have a well-intended, universal learning disability because they've been painstakingly built over millions of years for peak performance . . . in Stone Age conditions.

Most of us are pretty good at having beneficial experiences but pretty bad at installing them in the brain. Similarly, most therapists, mindfulness teachers, coaches, parents, and human resources trainers are pretty good at encouraging beneficial experiences in others, but pretty bad at helping them get installed in those brains. This was certainly true for me.

In effect, most beneficial experiences are wasted most of the time. The result is a learning curve that is a lot flatter than it needs to be.

Poignantly, because we are not internalizing most of our wholesome, beneficial experiences—authentic moments of feeling relaxed, capable, peaceful, glad, successful, contented, appreciated, loved, and loving—we feel emptier inside than we truly deserve to feel. And we become a lot easier to manipulate by fearconsumerism, and "us versus them" What can we do?

We can use the mind to change the brain for the better.

How?

Here's the essence: Have it, enjoy it. 

In other words, have a beneficial experience in the first place, usually, because you simply notice one you are already having: you're already feeling a bit of ease, relief, pleasure, connection, warmth, determination, confidence, clarity, hope, etc. And it's fine to create beneficial experiences, such as deliberately thinking of things you feel thankful for, or calling up compassion for someone in pain, or recalling how it felt in your body to assert yourself with someone who was being pushy.

Then, once you've got that good experience going, really enjoy it: taking five, 10, or more seconds to protect and stay with it, and open to it in your body. The longer and more intensely those neurons fire together, the more they'll be wiring this inner strength into your brain.

This is positive neuroplasticity, the essence of self-reliance: taking in everyday experiences to develop more inner strengths such as grit, confidence, kindness, emotional balance, happiness, patience, and self-awareness.

I don't believe in positive thinking. You're not overlooking the pains, losses, or injustices in life. I believe in realistic thinking, seeing the whole mosaic of reality, the good, the bad, and the neutral. Precisely because life is often hard, and because we've got a brain that's relatively poor at growing the inner strengths needed to deal with these challenges, we need to focus on the good facts in life, let them become good experiences, and then help these experiences really sink in.Most of the time you take in the good will be in the flow of life, maybe half a dozen times a day, usually less than half a minute at a time. You can also use more structured moments, such as at meals, after exercising or meditation, or just before bed.

Besides being more open in general to beneficial experiences, you can look for those specific experiences that will grow the particular inner strength(s) that will help you the most these days. For example, if you're feeling anxious, look for authentic opportunities to feel supported, protected, resourced, tough-minded, relaxed, or calm. If life feels disappointing or blah, look for the genuine facts that naturally support experiences of gladness, gratitude, pleasure, accomplishment, or effectiveness. If you feel lonely or inadequate, look for the real occasions when you are included, seen, appreciated, liked, or loved, and open to feeling appropriately cared about and valued. Also look for chances to feel caring yourself, since love is love whether it is flowing in or flowing out.

Our beneficial experiences are usually mild (a 1 or 2 on the 0 to 10 scale of intensity) but they are real. Anytime you let these experiences land inside you won't change your life. But much as a cup of water is filled drop by drop, you'll be changing your brain synapse by synapse for the better, as well as your life for the better.

And with a mind full of good, you'll have more to offer others. Growing the good in them, too, in widening ripples seen and unseen, perhaps reaching eventually around the whole world.

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